Tom Lavin, PhD - Therapist in Rumford, RI

Tom Lavin

Psychologist, PhD

Accepting new clients for morning, daytime, and evening appointments



Young adults / college students (17 - 24)
Seniors (60+)


Mon: 9:00am-5:00pm
Tue: 9:00am-5:00pm
Wed: 9:00am-5:00pm
Thu: 9:00am-5:00pm
Fri: Closed
Sat: Closed
Sun: Closed

Specialties & expertise

  • Academic issues

  • Anxiety

  • Depression

  • Loss and grief

  • Men’s health

Professional statement

Dr. Tom Lavin is a psychotherapist in Rumford, RI who has been practicing psychotherapy for over 40 years. He is a generalist, but has a special interest in treating performance anxiety, loss and grief, and men’s issues.

Dr. Lavin’s approach is rooted in an existential, humanistic perspective, that is, creating a safe space where clients can explore and improve both their inner and outer worlds, and discover fresh possibilities for places where they feel stuck or confused. In treating stress, he often incorporates mindfulness practices and biofeedback technology when those can be helpful.

Dr. Lavin works with clients ages 17 and older, and having worked as a staff psychologist and the Director of the Counseling Center at Rhode Island College for 35 years, he has extensive experience with all the challenges of college students.


Academic issues – Adjusting to college; managing developmental and emotional challenges in school; balancing schoolwork and personal life
Anxiety – Generalized anxiety, social anxiety, panic attacks
Depression – Sleep and energy disruption, overall mood disturbance, inability to enjoy yourself, and difficulty being motivated, among many other symptoms
Loss and grief – Processing the loss of a loved one, any form of grief; coping with the emotional aspects of personal illness or the illness of a loved one
Men's health – Including grappling with questions of masculinity, what it means to be a man, overall psychological health

General expertise

ADD / ADHD (Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder) – Managing ADHD and its effects on decision making, studies, relationships, and work; helping with organizational challenges
Anger management – Managing anger and its impact on personal and work relationships
Bipolar disorder – Using coping and preventive strategies to stabilize swings between elevated mood or irritability and depressive episodes
Compulsive behaviors – Including compulsive overeating, compulsive spending, and excessive use of technology and social media
Couples counseling – Improving communication and problem solving skills with couples from all gender and sexual identities
Existential challenges / crises – Questioning purpose, spirituality, existence; finding one’s path and voice, especially when it differs from society's expectations
LGBQ and sexuality issues– Includes coming out, relating to others, identifying and communicating needs, relationships, and family issues
Life transitions –  Adjusting to college, new relationships, career transitions and direction; mid-life existential, relationship, and career challenges; losing one’s drive or burn out; learning self-care
Relationships –  Feeling unsatisfied in your partnership; communication challenges; addressing issues of power and voice; contemplation of separation; questioning one’s place in the relationship; breakups, friendships, dating
Self harm – Injuring of body tissue without suicidal intentions, including but not limited to cutting, burning, scratching, and hitting
Sexuality – Exploring one's sexual needs, desires, and values; developing capacity to communicate sexual preferences; practicing emotionally safe sex
Stress management – Coping with stress of life and change, expectations of self and others
Trauma – Including dealing with past sexual assault, childhood trauma, environmental trauma (e.g. witnessing/experiencing violence), PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder)


  • Brown University Student Health Insurance Plan

  • Blue Cross Blue Shield

  • MultiPlan / PHCS

Out-of-pocket fees

  • Initial session: $180

  • Ongoing sessions: $110/session (50min)

Sliding scale: A sliding scale of $40 - $110 is offered to clients who need a reduced fee to receive therapy. 

Therapist's note: Dr. Lavin can provide you with paperwork for reimbursement from your insurance company if you are seeking out-of-network sessions.

Message to clients

“If you are looking at my profile, chances are you are feeling confused, upset, possibly in emotional or physical pain.   My first goal in therapy is to understand what you are going through and to help you sort out your concerns within the context of a safe and compassionate relationship.   More simply, I want you to feel understood and cared for. My wish is to create a space where you can begin to heal and find ways to build a more satisfying and purposeful life, in your relationships with others and in how you see yourself.”

Treatment approaches

Humanistic Therapy (learn more)
Existential Therapy Existential therapy is a therapy approach that both embraces human potential and recognizes human limitation. The breadth of existential theory falls into four major themes, which it sees as the root of most psychological problems: 1) Death, 2) Freedom (& Responsibility), 3) Isolation, and 4) Meaninglessness. (learn more)
Mindfulness PracticesMindfulness practices include but are not limited to developing awareness, attention, and remembering. In mindfulness-informed therapy, clients develop tools to become aware of what is occurring within and around them, so they can begin to untangle from mental preoccupations and difficult emotions. Self-acceptance and compassion are also core elements of mindfulness-informed therapy. (learn more)
Psychodynamic TherapyThe aim of psychodynamic therapy is to bring the unconscious mind into consciousness - helping individuals unravel, experience and understand their true, deep-rooted feelings in order to resolve them. It takes the view that our unconscious holds onto painful feelings and memories, and that the defenses we develop to ensure these difficult memories do not surface from our unconscious often do more harm than good. (learn more)
Biofeedback Therapy (learn more)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)In cognitive behavioral therapy, you work with a therapist in a structured way, attending a limited number of sessions. Cognitive behavioral therapy helps you become aware of inaccurate or negative thinking, so you can view challenging situations more clearly and respond to them in a more effective way. (learn more)

Education and work experience

Private practice, 1980 - Present
Rhode Island College, Staff Psychologist and Director, 1982 - 2017
SUNY-New Paltz, Staff Psychologist, 1978 - 1982

University of Missouri-Columbia, PhD., 1978



Professional endorsements

Tom Lavin is an enormously seasoned and skilled therapist who is warm, authentic, confident, funny and caring. He connects easily with people from all walks of life, and is quick to understand the complexities of a person, their unique situation and the struggles they face. Tom’s depth of experience allows him to bring helpful insight and practical solutions for those dealing with either situational obstacles or life-long challenges. He listens with an empathic ear and generous heart.
— Barbara Krementz, LICSW (2017)