Emily Eldar(She/They)

I am a licensed mental health counselor following my passion in helping individuals and couples to heal their relational wounds, self-actualize, and shape lives of growth and meaning. I treat clients of all identities but have additional expertise in non-monogamous, kink-identified, and LGBTQIA+ populations. I have specialized training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Imago, sexuality, trauma, BDSM and kink, polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships, and IFS.

Most of our struggles are relational in nature - how we relate to others, how we relate to ourselves and our bodies, and even how we relate to symbolic objects such as food, substances, money, etc. When we heal our relational wounds and peel back the layers to reveal our deepest needs, we can step into the self-actualized, meaningful, joyful lives we dream of. We all sustain life traumas which shape our beliefs about ourselves, others, and the world. When we can understand the protective systems of behavior we build in the service of our psychological and physical survival we have the opportunity to update our narratives based on our current empowerment and wisdom. In updating our core schemas, we unburden our traumatized parts of self, heal attachment wounds, and make room to relate from our place of highest self. When we set down our burdens and unhelpful lenses and relate from a place of self, we can learn the new levels of skill in communication, somatic regulation, mindfulness, and self-actualization which our wise self is ready for. In doing so, we can more fully build the relationships and overall life which best serve us and our continual growth.